No, it’s not sad that you’re 23 and you’ve never seen a topless woman in person. Its incredibly sad that you think you’re Undateable and feel you have nothing of value to offer anybody.
Answer by Lauren Campbell:
I normally don’t answer questions like this but your added details gave me pause so I decided to come here and answer.
Now what I’m about to tell you, I doubt you’ll believe, but I answered here by some odd chance that you would listen to me and it could help improve your life.
I am here to tell you that it is not true that you don’t have anything to offer right now. You’re not a boring person. Your problem is that you have low self esteem and self confidence that makes you believe, that you have nothing to offer anyone and this keeps you from interacting socially with other people. You tell youself that you’re boring and that you shouldn’t try, that no one will find you interesting, that you’re not attractive enough and you set some goal or standards at which point you believe you will suddenly become an interesting person. “If I get a good job that pays lots of money.” “If I lose ten pounds.” “If I learn better social skills.”
When you believe that you have nothing to offer, it shows. When you choose not to socialize, other people think it’s because you don’t like them or want to be around them. You are defining your own standards of what is a ‘good offer’ and deeming yourself worthless. You take no consideration for what other women may deem a “good offer” and deny them the chance to date you. So if there’s one thing I would encourage you to work on, it’d not be some self defined goal of what you think will make you accept yourself, it would actually just be, for you to gain self confidence and accept yourself and realize that you do have something to offer.
To answer your question, no, it’s not sad that you’ve never seen a topless woman in person. It is incredibly sad that you think you’re undatable and have nothing of value to offer anybody.
Is it bad that I am 23 and never even seen a topless woman in real life?
Akira Morikawa 